Yesterday I had gone with my mother to see a good friend of hers after a long time.Everything
was good and I felt nice to meet my aunt and her daughter,younger to me,studying in standard
12th.My mum so happy and excited as she knew she's gonna chit-chat after long with her friend.
I was getting bored and the only option was to get myself busy scrolling down newsfeed on facebook.
It seemed to me as if the gossip of the two pretty ladies is endless and then my aunt turned
to me calling my name.I replied her and she went on asking me about my studies and latest
plans and pursuits pertaining to my career in the near future.This conversation then shifted to her
daughter and she happened to tell us about the studies of her daughter.She sounded very worried as
this was her daughter's boards and perhaps she wasn't a good student. Aunt had lots of complains
and in no time her complains turned into blames.Blaming everyone and everything possible beginning from the school's management and academics to the tutor's classes ending to government and The Almighty.She was like "School is not doing their jobs well!";"We are paying handsome fee and they are not paying attention to my daughters development!";
"None of the teachers are teaching well.They are incapable";"We are just made fools and weakness of my daughter in academics is their fault." Tuition classes were not spared in any case and so does God but certainly God is use to of it.And I after hearing her blames went into introspection.I thoroughly thought about it.
You know I then realized that I also do the same.I am also busy blaming the situations and people and life and God. Everytime there's a feeling of rebuking when things do not fall in their place.This is our favorite pass-time as well.
I realized that very moment that Blaming is never a solution to the problems in your life.If something isn't the way it should otherwise be you need to make it that way with your sincere and honest efforts.Blaming upon situations and people around for the ups and downs is worthless.The kind of mind-sets we have developed these days and the way world around us has become Blaming is the much obvious first-approach of ours in every harsh and lows causing to us.We first blame thoroughly,criticize,rebuke strongly and to the fullest about things not going well or a failure or a fight etc and then we think about making some efforts to get them corrected.Believe me that's the last approach.Our attitude has become that way.This has not happened because of him.I am not good in academics because no one taught me well.Failure happened to me because my fate is poor.I gone through the heart-break,destiny is the reason.I often end up with loss because Laxmi isn't with me.I am dark,God is harsh.Country is not progressing,ministers are useless.Corruption is on peak,Government is dishonest.And there are countless blaming dialogues my dears.Have any one of us ever questioned ourselves?What we have done to make things better?What is our contribution?Is there any accountability of ours?How many times we have came forward to get things corrected?We are busy picking one or the other according to our comfort.I do it and you do it and believe me everyone does.This has perhaps our approach and way of dealing with the life's lows and prickly diffs.Knowingly or indeliberately we act this way.And No one is to be blamed for it.Neither the life and its situations,circumstances and people in it nor we.All we need to do is stop blaming and start acting.Acting upon the wrong and lows happening to us to make them better and peaceful.
"A man get discouraged many times but he is not a failure until he begins to blame somebody else and stops trying."
Approach should be a positive one that could eventually come up with a solution that is capable of resolving the issues.Instead of complaining work hard to make situations a better one.Its much productive to search your own past and find what caused your faults.If we are unsuccessful,we need to work even harder.If we end up in failure,we need to learn from it and correct our faults.If things are not falling in their correct place,time has yet to come.
But I certainly feel that all the approach and the efforts should be in the direction of resolution to a problem or issue that is affecting us.All the focus should be on ourselves and on what we are doing to be better and happy.
"When you realize that everything springs only from yourself,you will learn both peace and joy."